As a mother of seven, I often think of early parenthood as our own personal "mud season." It's messy, exhausting, and definitely dirtier as you navigate the transition into life with a newborn. But just like the spring garden, your little wonder is arriving with everything they need to bloom already tucked inside them. Today, I want to talk about one of the most incredible "little wonders" of all: the inherent, God-given instincts your baby is born with that lead the way to breastfeeding success. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by the technical "rules" of breastfeeding, take a deep breath. You, and your baby, were built for this. THE MIRACLE OF THE "BREAST CRAWL"When we think of newborns, we often think of them as fragile and entirely helpless. While they certainly need our protection, they are far from passive. From the moment they are placed on your chest, your baby is born with primitive neonatal reflexes (PNRs) designed specifically for survival and connection. Have you ever heard of the "breast crawl"? It is one of the most agonizingly beautiful things to witness. If a healthy newborn is placed skin-to-skin on her mother's abdomen immediately after birth, she will instinctively begin to move. Using her tiny legs to push and her rooting reflex to seek, she can actually "crawl" her way up to the breast, find the nipple, and latch, all on her own. This isn't just a "neat trick"; it’s a biological roadmap. These instincts, including the stepping reflex, the hand-to-mouth transition, and the search for the "target" (your areola), are part of a delicate neurobehavioral dance. When we step back and allow baby's instincts to take the lead, breastfeeding often moves from a struggle against gravity to a flow with nature.  biological nurturing: the power of restIn my years providing breastfeeding consultation and birth doula care in the Twin Cities, I’ve noticed that many moms are taught to sit bolt upright, use a million pillows, and "hold" the baby just right. While that works for some, it can sometimes work against gravity and the baby's natural reflexes. This is when Biological Nurturing, or "laid-back breastfeeding" shines. In my birth classes, I teach mamas that active, upright positions help the birth to progress, despite generations of mothers being taught or forced to lie down as they are "delivered" passively of their babies. And then mothers are taught to sit upright for feeding their babies, using their breasts as if they were bottlefeeding. Which often leads to cracked and bleeding nipples and "nipple"feeding; not breastfeeding! Remember: "Upright for birth. Laid-back for breastfeeding." When you recline comfortably ~ think of a 45-degree angle on a cozy sofa ~ gravity helps your baby’s body stay in close contact with yours. This skin-to-skin contact releases a flood of oxytocin (the "love hormone") in both of you. For your baby, being tummy-down on your body triggers those feeding reflexes rather than the "startle" reflex that often happens when they feel like they are falling. It’s a reminder that we don't always have to "do" more. Sometimes, we just need to create the space for nature, and God’s design, to do the work. While laid-back breastfeeding is a simple practice that can prevent or treat common early breastfeeding difficulties, it isn't magic. I recently helped a new mother who was struggling to breastfeed her newborn. Her particular anatomy made "laid-back breastfeeding" a bit more challenging. Added on to that biological challenge, her baby was bottle-fed in the hospital and nipple shields were introduced at the same time. This mama also struggled with a more forceful milk release. These interventions and the mother's forceful let-down resulted in him being somewhat more comfortable with artificial nipples; the mother reported he seemed to struggle at the breast. Furthermore, this mama described breastfeeding as being more painful on one side. We worked on weaning baby from the shields and a minor adjustment in how this mama held her baby that immediately made breastfeeding more comfortable. By applying what she learned and working with her baby, she reported back that her baby was latching on much better and staying attached much longer and that breastfeeding was much easier. Sometimes just having an experienced breastfeeding counselor available to check out a feeding is enough to get things on track. Your baby's instincts are amazing but they may only get you so far. It's okay to ask for help if you think you and your baby might need it! your little wonders: april & may class scheduleAs part of our "Your Little Wonders" theme this season, I am so excited to help you dig into these lesser-known skills your babies possess. We aren't just teaching them; we are fostering what is already there! Here is a glimpse at what we have coming up to help you support your baby's development:
a special invitation: st. crOix mamas' groupWhile I love our virtual community, there is something so incredibly restorative about sitting in a circle with other mothers who "get it." I am especially passionate about growing our local support network here in the St. Croix Valley and Twin Cities area. I want to invite you to a very special session of the St. Croix Mamas' Group:
Whether you are currently breastfeeding and looking for tips to make it easier, or you are pregnant and seeking natural birth support and a community to plug into, this group is for you. My heart is to create a space where my future birth doula clients and current families can find lifelong friends and evidence-based encouragement. Click here to learn more about our Parents' Groups and RSVP! "succeed" when you breastfeedI want to share my own little memory device that will help you Succeed When You Breastfeed. Remember the word SUCCEED:
 you arE not aloneI know the fear that can come with breastfeeding. I know the worry that your body won't "work" or that you won't know what to do. But I want to remind you: You are enough. Your desire to nourish your child is a beautiful, holy thing. Whether you are struggling with a painful latch or just looking for a village to walk alongside you, please know that there is a place for you here. There is no need to "move on" or "figure it out" by yourself. We are here to hold your hand through the mud until the flowers start to bloom. I’d love to hear from you! Have you ever tried laid-back breastfeeding, or did you notice your baby's instincts in those first few days? Share your "wonder" stories in the comments below! With love and prayers, Christelle President, St. Croix Birth & Parenting LLC Interested in personalized care? Explore our birth doula services or schedule an in-person or virtual breastfeeding consultation today. We serve families locally in the Twin Cities and virtually around the world.
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In my experience as a mother of seven (yes, seven! Ask how I know about the "latch struggle" lol), I have learned that breastfeeding is a beautiful gift, but it is also a skill that often requires a gentle guide. While online videos and clinic visits have their place, there is something truly transformative about in-home breastfeeding support. Today, let’s talk about why inviting a professional into your sanctuary, your home, is a total game changer for your breastfeeding success. Recently, I was invited into "Rachel's" home. In addition to struggling to help her baby latch, she had been given breast shields in the hospital for flat nipples. Rachel also struggled with a forceful milk release. We worked on strategies to wean baby off the shields and use positioning techniques to help him attach and stay latched on. Rachel reported to me last week that while he still struggles with the letdown, he was staying attached for longer and that things have "definitely been improving." It has been such a blessing to be able to support this family and help make a difference at such a crucial time for long-term breastfeeding. The "Postpartum Paradox": Why Leaving the House is HardWhen you’re struggling with a newborn’s latch, the standard advice is often: "Make an appointment at the clinic." But let’s be real for a second. For a new mama, "making an appointment" involves:
This is what I call the Postpartum Paradox: the time when you most need professional breastfeeding consultation is the exact time when you are least equipped to leave your house, and when leaving your house is the least safe for your baby!  When I provide in-home support, I come to you. You don't have to put on real pants (unless you want to!). You don't have to pack a bag. You sit in your favorite chair, with your pillows, in your light. We work with your reality, not force you to come to mine! Why In-Home Support Beats a Video Every TimeI've got nothing against technology. I even offer a Breastfeeding Matters online class because I believe breastfeeding education is foundational to breastfeeding success! But there are limits to what we can do with a screen and possibly thousands of miles separating us.
The Personal Touch: Faith, Hope, and ExpertisE When you search for a birth doula in the Twin Cities, you’re looking for more than just a list of certifications. You’re looking for a heart that understands yours. At St. Croix Birth & Parenting, my approach is rooted in values-based, compassionate care. Whether I’m providing birth doula care during your birth or coming to your home for a lactation check-in, I bring my whole self to the table. As a mother who has tandem nursed three times and navigated the agonizing stress of a NICU stay and feeding tubes, I don't just "know" the technical side of breastfeeding, I feel it with you. I have sat where you are sitting. I have prayed the same prayers for peace and begging God to just let the milk flow. My goal is to provide natural birth support that extends far beyond the delivery room. We focus on the "whole" family, ensuring that the transition to parenthood is as joyful and tender as God intended it to be.  The S.U.P.P.O.R.T. Framework for Latch StrugglesIf you are struggling right now, I want to give you a small framework to hold onto until we can meet. When the "latch struggle" feels overwhelming, remember SUPPORT:
Community Matters: You Aren't Meant to Do This AloneBreastfeeding was never meant to be a solo sport. In traditional communities, a new mother would be surrounded by sisters, aunts, and grandmothers who would guide her hands and whisper encouragement. Today, we often live in "islands," and that is why I am so passionate about my support groups. Whether it’s our St. Croix Valley Mothers Support Group or our Catholic Nursing Mothers Support Group, finding your "village" is essential.  Let’s Find Your PeaceIf you are in the Twin Cities area and your breastfeeding journey feels more like a battle than a blessing, please reach out. There is no need to "tough it out" or wait for it to magically get better. Breastfeeding problems tend to get worse the longer you wait! Whether you need a one-time Newborn Care Birth Place Visit or ongoing in-home lactation support, I am here to be your gentle guide. We can work together to ensure your baby is nourished and you are empowered. I want to hear from you: What has been the most surprising part of your breastfeeding journey so far? The joy? The struggle? The middle-of-the-night realizations? Share your story in the comments below: I read every single one. Ready to get off the struggle bus? Click here to book an in-person breastfeeding consultation or a virtual breastfeeding counseling appointment* or learn more About Christelle’s experience.
* (If you are unable to locate quality local in-person support, or prefer to talk with someone of similar beliefs, a virtual visit is still a great option!) |
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