Babywearing isn’t just a "parenting hack." It is a lifesaver. It is the bridge between the intense needs of a newborn and the practical realities of life, and this goes double or triple if you have another tiny human or two (or three...) running around. Whether you are navigating the first few weeks or seeking natural birth support and a smooth transition into parenthood, wearing your baby allows you to keep that "tender, peaceful bond" while reclaiming your hands. But, like anything worth doing, it comes with a learning curve. I remember the first time I tried a long wrap; I felt like I was trying to wrap an entire bedsheet around me and ended up looking more like a mummy than supermum. But once you master the safety basics, you move from "I hope I'm doing this right" to "I got this." Why We Wear: The Heart of BabywearingBefore we dive into the "how," let’s talk about the "why." Beyond the sheer convenience of being able to eat a sandwich with both hands, babywearing offers profound physiological and emotional benefits:
The T.I.C.K.S. Rule: Your Safety CompassWhen it comes to safety, we don't guess. We follow a clear, actionable framework. The T.I.C.K.S. rule is the gold standard for ensuring your baby’s airway is protected and their spine is supported. T : Tight The carrier or wrap should be snug enough to hold your baby firmly against you. Think of it as a "firm hug." If the fabric is too loose, your baby might slump down, which can restrict their breathing. A good test? If you lean forward and your baby pulls away from your body, it’s time to tighten things up. I : In View at All Times You should always be able to see your baby’s face just by looking down. Ensure no fabric, clothing, or even your own hair is covering their nose or mouth. We want to see those sweet, sleepy snuggles clearly! C : Close Enough to Kiss This is my favorite rule. Your baby should be positioned high enough on your chest that you can easily kiss the top of their head by just tipping your head forward. If they are sitting too low on your belly, they aren't properly supported, and it will eventually put a strain on your back, too.  K: Keep Chin Off Chest This is vital for airway safety. A newborn’s head is heavy, and their neck muscles are weak. If their chin is forced down onto their chest, it can partially close their airway. Ensure there is always a space of at least one to two finger-widths under their chin. S : Supported Back In an upright carry, the baby should be held comfortably close to the wearer so their back is supported in its natural "C-curve" position. Their tummy and chest should be against you, not twisting away. Mind the Hips: The Magic "M" PositionBeyond the airway, we also care deeply about those tiny growing joints. For the first few months, a baby’s hips are quite flexible, and improper positioning can increase the risk of hip dysplasia. We look for the "M" Shape (often called the "froggy" position).
When you look at your baby in the mirror, their legs and bottom should form a wide "M." This keeps the ball of the hip joint nestled deeply into the socket, allowing for healthy development.  You Are Not Alone in the "Wrap Struggle"If you’ve watched a YouTube tutorial five times and still feel like you’re wrapped in swaddling clothes, please know that you are not alone. There is no need to feel frustrated or like you "just aren't a babywearing person." Sometimes, you just need a gentle guide to show you the way. As you can see, while we are beyond the carrying stage now, babywearing was a part of my family's life with littles from the beginning! While there are definitely better carriers for dads now, (No Magic M in sight! 😬) you can see my husband did his share of babywearing.  I loved using ring slings, though they definitely have a learning curve. A huge pro for ring slings is the ease of "unwearing" a sleeping baby. Compared to other carriers that require you to lift baby out or unwind yourself like a spinning doll, ring slings make it easy to transition your sleeping little one. Once baby is asleep, you can lay baby and sling down at the same time, and ease yourself out, letting baby sleep with the thin fabric underneath her. Remember when wearing baby in the sling: keep one hand on or around baby at all times and make sure to keep her face where you can see it.  I was also a huge fan of the Boba brand carrier. It was very comfortable for use and made safe kitchen tasks or housework easy to do with baby in tow. For older babies who can back carry, it is a great option for hiking.
This stretchy wrap was one of the last types of carriers I used. Though definitely trickier to put on, this type of carrier spreads the baby's weight over your whole back which is quite comfortable.  If you need help choosing and learning to use baby carriers, this is where our postpartum doula services really shine. At St. Croix Birth & Parenting, we don’t just "help with the baby": we empower you to care for your baby with confidence. Our doulas can come to your home (or meet via telehealth) to help you master your specific carrier, whether it’s a ring sling, a stretchy wrap, or a structured buckle carrier. We’ll check your T.I.C.K.S., ensure that "M" shape is perfect, and help you find the "sweet spot" where both you and baby feel light as air. We also love seeing families at our Baby Sign Play classes and parent groups! It’s a wonderful place to see other parents wearing their babies and realize that we are all just learning together, one step at a time.
A Final Reminder: Your Story MattersAs you navigate these early days, remember that your baby doesn’t need a "perfect" parent: they just need you. They need the sound of your voice, the warmth of your skin, and the rhythm of your heart. Whether you wear your baby for ten minutes while you fold some onesies or for two hours while you go for a peaceful walk, you are providing them with a sanctuary of love. You are doing a beautiful job, mama (and papa!). These days are fragile and joyful all at once. If you ever feel overwhelmed by the fog of new parenthood, reach out. We are here to support you, pray for you, and celebrate every small victory with you. Do you have a favorite carrier that has been a lifesaver for you? Or are you still trying to find the right fit? Share your journey in the comments below (I'd love to hear your story!)
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THE VITAL "NEONATAL WINDOW"
TIPS FOR A STRONG START IN THE FIRST MONTHGetting off to a strong start requires some key concepts: a good latch, frequency, and, most importantly, your own care so you can heal and regain your strength and build an abundant milk supply. 1. Focus on the Latch A good latch shouldn't be agonizing. Yes, there might be some initial "tender" moments as your nipples get used to the sensation and the stretching, but if you feel sharp or "squashing" pain, it’s a sign to gently break the seal and try again. Aim for a "deep" latch where the baby takes in a good portion of the areola, not just the nipple. 2. Embrace the "Ecological" Rhythm Many families I work with across the globe, and throughout the Twin Cities, St. Paul, Minneapolis, Stillwater, Woodbury, Hudson, and the St. Croix Valley are especially interested in ecological breastfeeding as one of our unique offerings. This isn't just about food; it’s a lifestyle of mother-baby togetherness. By following the "Seven Standards", which include frequent nursing, avoiding artificial nipples (pacifiers/bottles), sharing sleep, babywearing, and avoiding separations from your baby, many mothers find that this "attachment parenting" style of breastfeeding actually helps to avoid common breastfeeding difficulties, like low milk supply and engorgement -- and the plugged ducts and mastitis that often follow. And this natural way of breastfeeding suppresses the reproductive hormones in many women, spacing children naturally. It’s about working with your body’s design. 3. Maternal Care is Not Selfish You cannot pour from an empty cup. To make milk, you need calories, hydration, and, as much as possible, rest. I know, "sleep when the baby sleeps" feels like a joke when the laundry is staring at you or your toddler is asking you to read The Cat in the Hat for the fiftieth time. But in this first month, give yourself permission to let the house be a bit ~ or a lot! ~ messy and ask for help, including care of any older siblings. Your job is to care for yourself so you can heal from the beautiful but strenuous work of birth and to care for the new little human in your life. Breastfeeding is a full-time job! Finding Your Village: Support GroupsBreastfeeding is not meant to be done in isolation. Historically, women had sisters, mothers, and aunts surrounding them. Today, we have to be more intentional about creating that circle. At St. Croix Birth & Parenting, we offer two very special spaces for this, both available to families in the Twin Cities metro and St. Croix Valley and around the world who are looking for connection:
If you're looking at the upcoming schedule and wondering where to begin, the Breastfeeding Matters class is a lovely first step, especially for expectant and newly postpartum families in St. Paul, Minneapolis, and surrounding Twin Cities communities. (But since it's a virtual class, you can join from anywhere!) When You Need a Little Extra HelpSometimes, despite our best efforts, challenges arise. Maybe it's a tongue-tie, a slow weight gain, or just a feeling of being overwhelmed. This is where professional support can make all the difference. If you are struggling, please don't wait until you are at a breaking point. A breastfeeding consultation can provide the technical guidance and emotional reassurance you need. We can meet in person throughout the Twin Cities, including Minneapolis, St. Paul, and nearby communities, or virtually if you're further away. Additionally, our postpartum doula services are designed to mother the mother. Imagine someone coming into your home to hold the baby so you can shower, or to fix you a nutritious snack while we talk through your breastfeeding goals. It's about providing that "gentle guide" during the transition into parenthood. A BLESSING FOR YOUR FIRST MONTHTo the mama sitting there right now, perhaps with a sleepy baby on her chest: Your body is doing a miraculous thing. Whether your journey feels like a peaceful stream or a turbulent river right now, know that you are the perfect mother for your child. In these first 30 days, remember you can SUCCEED when you breastfeed:
You’ve got this, mama. And when it feels like you don't, we are right here to hold your hand. I’d love to hear from you: What has been the most surprising part of your first 30 days? Or, if you’re still waiting for baby’s arrival, what is the one thing you’re most looking forward to (or nervous about) with breastfeeding? Share with us in the comments! 
In my experience as a mother of seven (yes, seven! Ask how I know about the "latch struggle" lol), I have learned that breastfeeding is a beautiful gift, but it is also a skill that often requires a gentle guide. While online videos and clinic visits have their place, there is something truly transformative about in-home breastfeeding support. Today, let’s talk about why inviting a professional into your sanctuary, your home, is a total game changer for your breastfeeding success. Recently, I was invited into "Rachel's" home. In addition to struggling to help her baby latch, she had been given breast shields in the hospital for flat nipples. Rachel also struggled with a forceful milk release. We worked on strategies to wean baby off the shields and use positioning techniques to help him attach and stay latched on. Rachel reported to me last week that while he still struggles with the letdown, he was staying attached for longer and that things have "definitely been improving." It has been such a blessing to be able to support this family and help make a difference at such a crucial time for long-term breastfeeding. The "Postpartum Paradox": Why Leaving the House is HardWhen you’re struggling with a newborn’s latch, the standard advice is often: "Make an appointment at the clinic." But let’s be real for a second. For a new mama, "making an appointment" involves:
This is what I call the Postpartum Paradox: the time when you most need professional breastfeeding consultation is the exact time when you are least equipped to leave your house, and when leaving your house is the least safe for your baby!  When I provide in-home support, I come to you. You don't have to put on real pants (unless you want to!). You don't have to pack a bag. You sit in your favorite chair, with your pillows, in your light. We work with your reality, not force you to come to mine! Why In-Home Support Beats a Video Every TimeI've got nothing against technology. I even offer a Breastfeeding Matters online class because I believe breastfeeding education is foundational to breastfeeding success! But there are limits to what we can do with a screen and possibly thousands of miles separating us.
The Personal Touch: Faith, Hope, and ExpertisE When you search for a birth doula in the Twin Cities, you’re looking for more than just a list of certifications. You’re looking for a heart that understands yours. At St. Croix Birth & Parenting, my approach is rooted in values-based, compassionate care. Whether I’m providing birth doula care during your birth or coming to your home for a lactation check-in, I bring my whole self to the table. As a mother who has tandem nursed three times and navigated the agonizing stress of a NICU stay and feeding tubes, I don't just "know" the technical side of breastfeeding, I feel it with you. I have sat where you are sitting. I have prayed the same prayers for peace and begging God to just let the milk flow. My goal is to provide natural birth support that extends far beyond the delivery room. We focus on the "whole" family, ensuring that the transition to parenthood is as joyful and tender as God intended it to be.  The S.U.P.P.O.R.T. Framework for Latch StrugglesIf you are struggling right now, I want to give you a small framework to hold onto until we can meet. When the "latch struggle" feels overwhelming, remember SUPPORT:
Community Matters: You Aren't Meant to Do This AloneBreastfeeding was never meant to be a solo sport. In traditional communities, a new mother would be surrounded by sisters, aunts, and grandmothers who would guide her hands and whisper encouragement. Today, we often live in "islands," and that is why I am so passionate about my support groups. Whether it’s our St. Croix Valley Mothers Support Group or our Catholic Nursing Mothers Support Group, finding your "village" is essential.  Let’s Find Your PeaceIf you are in the Twin Cities area and your breastfeeding journey feels more like a battle than a blessing, please reach out. There is no need to "tough it out" or wait for it to magically get better. Breastfeeding problems tend to get worse the longer you wait! Whether you need a one-time Newborn Care Birth Place Visit or ongoing in-home lactation support, I am here to be your gentle guide. We can work together to ensure your baby is nourished and you are empowered. I want to hear from you: What has been the most surprising part of your breastfeeding journey so far? The joy? The struggle? The middle-of-the-night realizations? Share your story in the comments below: I read every single one. Ready to get off the struggle bus? Click here to book an in-person breastfeeding consultation or a virtual breastfeeding counseling appointment* or learn more About Christelle’s experience.
* (If you are unable to locate quality local in-person support, or prefer to talk with someone of similar beliefs, a virtual visit is still a great option!) |
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