Babywearing isn’t just a "parenting hack." It is a lifesaver. It is the bridge between the intense needs of a newborn and the practical realities of life, and this goes double or triple if you have another tiny human or two (or three...) running around. Whether you are navigating the first few weeks or seeking natural birth support and a smooth transition into parenthood, wearing your baby allows you to keep that "tender, peaceful bond" while reclaiming your hands. But, like anything worth doing, it comes with a learning curve. I remember the first time I tried a long wrap; I felt like I was trying to wrap an entire bedsheet around me and ended up looking more like a mummy than supermum. But once you master the safety basics, you move from "I hope I'm doing this right" to "I got this." Why We Wear: The Heart of BabywearingBefore we dive into the "how," let’s talk about the "why." Beyond the sheer convenience of being able to eat a sandwich with both hands, babywearing offers profound physiological and emotional benefits:
The T.I.C.K.S. Rule: Your Safety CompassWhen it comes to safety, we don't guess. We follow a clear, actionable framework. The T.I.C.K.S. rule is the gold standard for ensuring your baby’s airway is protected and their spine is supported. T : Tight The carrier or wrap should be snug enough to hold your baby firmly against you. Think of it as a "firm hug." If the fabric is too loose, your baby might slump down, which can restrict their breathing. A good test? If you lean forward and your baby pulls away from your body, it’s time to tighten things up. I : In View at All Times You should always be able to see your baby’s face just by looking down. Ensure no fabric, clothing, or even your own hair is covering their nose or mouth. We want to see those sweet, sleepy snuggles clearly! C : Close Enough to Kiss This is my favorite rule. Your baby should be positioned high enough on your chest that you can easily kiss the top of their head by just tipping your head forward. If they are sitting too low on your belly, they aren't properly supported, and it will eventually put a strain on your back, too.  K: Keep Chin Off Chest This is vital for airway safety. A newborn’s head is heavy, and their neck muscles are weak. If their chin is forced down onto their chest, it can partially close their airway. Ensure there is always a space of at least one to two finger-widths under their chin. S : Supported Back In an upright carry, the baby should be held comfortably close to the wearer so their back is supported in its natural "C-curve" position. Their tummy and chest should be against you, not twisting away. Mind the Hips: The Magic "M" PositionBeyond the airway, we also care deeply about those tiny growing joints. For the first few months, a baby’s hips are quite flexible, and improper positioning can increase the risk of hip dysplasia. We look for the "M" Shape (often called the "froggy" position).
When you look at your baby in the mirror, their legs and bottom should form a wide "M." This keeps the ball of the hip joint nestled deeply into the socket, allowing for healthy development.  You Are Not Alone in the "Wrap Struggle"If you’ve watched a YouTube tutorial five times and still feel like you’re wrapped in swaddling clothes, please know that you are not alone. There is no need to feel frustrated or like you "just aren't a babywearing person." Sometimes, you just need a gentle guide to show you the way. As you can see, while we are beyond the carrying stage now, babywearing was a part of my family's life with littles from the beginning! While there are definitely better carriers for dads now, (No Magic M in sight! 😬) you can see my husband did his share of babywearing.  I loved using ring slings, though they definitely have a learning curve. A huge pro for ring slings is the ease of "unwearing" a sleeping baby. Compared to other carriers that require you to lift baby out or unwind yourself like a spinning doll, ring slings make it easy to transition your sleeping little one. Once baby is asleep, you can lay baby and sling down at the same time, and ease yourself out, letting baby sleep with the thin fabric underneath her. Remember when wearing baby in the sling: keep one hand on or around baby at all times and make sure to keep her face where you can see it.  I was also a huge fan of the Boba brand carrier. It was very comfortable for use and made safe kitchen tasks or housework easy to do with baby in tow. For older babies who can back carry, it is a great option for hiking.
This stretchy wrap was one of the last types of carriers I used. Though definitely trickier to put on, this type of carrier spreads the baby's weight over your whole back which is quite comfortable.  If you need help choosing and learning to use baby carriers, this is where our postpartum doula services really shine. At St. Croix Birth & Parenting, we don’t just "help with the baby": we empower you to care for your baby with confidence. Our doulas can come to your home (or meet via telehealth) to help you master your specific carrier, whether it’s a ring sling, a stretchy wrap, or a structured buckle carrier. We’ll check your T.I.C.K.S., ensure that "M" shape is perfect, and help you find the "sweet spot" where both you and baby feel light as air. We also love seeing families at our Baby Sign Play classes and parent groups! It’s a wonderful place to see other parents wearing their babies and realize that we are all just learning together, one step at a time.
A Final Reminder: Your Story MattersAs you navigate these early days, remember that your baby doesn’t need a "perfect" parent: they just need you. They need the sound of your voice, the warmth of your skin, and the rhythm of your heart. Whether you wear your baby for ten minutes while you fold some onesies or for two hours while you go for a peaceful walk, you are providing them with a sanctuary of love. You are doing a beautiful job, mama (and papa!). These days are fragile and joyful all at once. If you ever feel overwhelmed by the fog of new parenthood, reach out. We are here to support you, pray for you, and celebrate every small victory with you. Do you have a favorite carrier that has been a lifesaver for you? Or are you still trying to find the right fit? Share your journey in the comments below (I'd love to hear your story!)
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5/23/2026 Big Feelings and Really Big Teddy Bears: Elevate Your Summer with Our NEW Baby Signs Course!Read Now
The "Inside Out" Connection: Giving Joy and Sadness a HandRemember the movie Inside Out? It perfectly illustrates the colorful, chaotic control center inside all of us. For a toddler, those characters ~ Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear, and Disgust ~ are running the show at full speed, but the "control panel" doesn't have a speaker attached yet. When we teach our babies to sign, we aren't just teaching them "tricks." We are giving Joy a megaphone and helping Sadness feel seen. In my experience, when a child can sign "SAD" or "MAD" instead of just screaming, the energy in the room shifts instantly. You move from a place of guessing to a place of knowing. There is such a tender peace that comes when a child realizes, “Oh, she understands me.”  Announcing: Our "More Sign Say & Play" Summer Adventure!I am so incredibly excited to announce our upcoming summer series: More Sign Say & Play, beginning June 10! This is a special six-session journey designed for families with little ones aged 6–24 months. And here is a little secret: you don't need to have taken the first Sign Say & Play series to join us. We are starting fresh and diving deep! This summer, we are doing something brand new. We’re blending the convenience of virtual learning with the community-building and fun of local Twin Cities field trips. We’ll meet online to learn our signs, and then we’ll take those signs "into the wild" to practice them together. Our Summer ThemesEach session is crafted to help your child communicate about their outer world and their inner heart. We’ll be exploring:
From the Screen to the Park: Our Local Field TripsOne of the things I love most about St. Croix Birth & Parenting is the community we build. Especially in Minnesota, summer is SHORT! We have to take time to enjoy the green and growing world around us before it's gone again for another long winter. Therefore, this summer, we aren't just learning behind screens. We have three awesome field trips out in the world planned for our local Twin Cities families: 1. Teddy Bear Park in StillwaterWe’ll be heading to the iconic Teddy Bear Park to practice our "Outside" and "Play" signs. There is something so joyful about witnessing a toddler invite a new friend to "PLAY" while standing in the shadow of a giant bear. It’s a wonderful way for big siblings to get involved, too: they are always welcome to join the fun!  2. The Como Zoo in St. PaulIs there anything better than a summer day at Como? We’ll use our "Zoo" session to name the animals we see. When your child points and signs "MONKEY," they aren't just identifying a creature; they are sharing a thought with you. That connection is a pure blessing from God.  3. A Local Farm AdventureWe are currently finalizing the perfect farm location (stay tuned!), where we will put our "Farm" signs to the test. Imagine your little one signing "COW" or "CHICKEN" while actually hearing the sounds and smelling the hay. It grounds their learning in a sensory-rich reality that sticks.  Why This Matters (The "Real Talk" Version)I know your schedule is packed. I know the idea of adding "one more thing" can feel overwhelming. But I want to give you permission to see this not as a chore, but as an investment in your peace...and proactively laying the foundation for a lifetime of better communication with your child. Research shows that baby sign language can actually boost neural pathways and support later literacy. But more importantly, it reduces the "hormonal suppression" of frustration. When a child can communicate, their cortisol levels drop. And mama, when their cortisol drops, yours does too. You are not alone in the struggle of the toddler years. Your story matters, and your child’s voice ~ even if it’s currently only expressed through their hands ~ is a gift. Join Us This Summer!Whether you are a first-time parent or a seasoned pro with a van full of kids, there is a place for you in More Sign Say & Play.
You can find all the details and register here to grab your spot. I can’t wait to see your little ones' faces light up when they realize they finally have the words or the signs to tell you exactly what’s on their mind. It is a beautiful, tender journey, and I would be honored to be your guide. What is one thing your toddler is currently trying "so hard" to tell you? Share your stories (and your frustrations!) in the comments below: let’s support each other! With love and blessings,
~Christelle
As you prepare for the upcoming holidays, here are a few gentle reminders and practical tips to help you and your little one stay peaceful, connected, and full of Christmas joy this season. 1. Keep Connection at the Center Your little one may not understand what makes the holidays special — but they do know what makes you feel special to them. Extra gatherings can be exciting but also overwhelming for babies and toddlers. Try to hold onto a few “anchors” of connection each day — a quiet cuddle before guests arrive, a short walk outside, or singing a familiar song together. Even just slowing down for eye contact and smiles communicates love and safety in the midst of the bustle.
3. Keep Nursing Simple and Centered If you’re breastfeeding, the holidays can bring both blessings and challenges. Changes in schedule, diet, and stress can affect milk supply, and family gatherings can sometimes stir up mixed feelings about nursing in public or around relatives. And a secret that many moms don't realize is the busy-ness of the season can trigger an unexpected return of fertility! Guess how I know that?! Yes; her name is .... Remember: you are nourishing and comforting your baby — a truly beautiful and tender act of love. Try to carve out calm, private moments to nurse - if privacy feels best for you - or proudly feed your baby wherever you’re both comfortable. If you’d like some extra encouragement, join one of ouor upcoming mothers' support groups as we discuss “Nursing Your Baby Through the Holidays." 🕊️ We’ll share practical tips, laughter, and support for making this season nurturing for you and your baby. Both of these groups currently meet online, so you don't even need to leave the house!
4. Keep Expectations Gentle No one — not even the most organized parent — can do it all. This year, let “presence” be your gift. Your baby doesn’t need perfect decorations, fancy outfits, or gourmet meals. They need you — peaceful, present, and full of love. If things get loud or messy, smile and remember that these are the moments that will become stories someday. A baby’s giggle at the dinner table or a sleepy snuggle by the tree is worth more than the best Instagrammable house! Wishing You a Season of Peace and Connection May this holiday season be filled with joyful gatherings, calm mealtimes, and deep connection with your little one — body, mind, and spirit. Whether you’re signing, nursing, or simply soaking in baby cuddles by the twinkling lights, you’re doing beautiful work as a parent.
What part of the holidays are you looking forward to sharing with your little one the most? Comment below and let us know!
Valentine's Day is just a few days away! While the first thing that springs to mind may be romantic love, Valentine's Day is a wonderful time to focus on growing your connection with your little one as well. Toddlers thrive on simple, meaningful activities that engage their senses and strengthen their bond with their parents and other caregivers. I have gathered some simple activities you can easily do with the little ones in your life, while you make some precious memories. crafting A BEE-YOUTIFUL connection
For babies or young toddlers, you can add the details to their footprint to make their bee come alive. Older toddlers and preschoolers will love crafting their bee by themselves! Hint: if you don't have or don't want to use alphabet stickers, you can trace the letters, "BEE MINE," in pencil and have little ones paint over your letters. Fine motor skills, arts and crafts, and writing practice all in one! Saint Valentine love lettersWhile it is entirely possible to celebrate and enjoy Valentine's Day as it is commonly celebrated today, my Christian and Catholic readers will appreciate a faith-based activity you can do with your little ones. Since we're on the topic of "Valentines," did you know that the Saint Valentine, a Roman clergyman from the third century, is still known for writing letters of encouragement to Christians undergoing persecution? This may explain our tradition of writing sweet cards on Valentine's Day to those we love. If you are interested in adding this activity to your special day, talk with your child about people you know who might need some extra encouragement...perhaps a grandparent, a neighbor, residents at a local nursing home, immigrants, or mothers experiencing a difficult or unexpected pregnancy. Write simple messages of encouragement such as "God loves you," "Praying for you," "You are a gift," or "Jesus loves you," and having your child "sign" his name to the card, with a thumbprint, first initial or first name, depending on your child's abilities. Your little ones can also decorate their Saint Valentine cards with hearts, stickers, or stamps. You and your child can then deliver the cards to the intended recipients, bringing them joy, and practicing the virtue of kindness as a family. SENSORY PLAY WITH A HEARTFELT TWISTIf you're hoping to encourage the growth of your little one's attention span; give them an opportunity to explore textures; and practice scooping and pouring; a sensory bin is a great idea. But let's be real...when you've got little ones who may still put things in their mouths, a sensory bin can be a nerve-wracking and potentially dangerous thing! If you can handle it if the littles dump everything out, here's a great idea for a (mostly) edible sensory bin: a cereal bin!
If you want to contain the mess, and you have a big enough box, put the sensory bin and the little ones in the big box. When they're done nibbling, scooping, pouring, and exploring, remove the reusable items and toss, or compost, the remains of the cereal. sweet treats, simple joysSince we're on the topic of food, making heart-shaped treats together is a wonderful way to develop teamwork with your child, while teaching math skills. Valentine's Day and strawberries seem like a natural pair; how about your own home-made, heart-shaped strawberry roll-ups? Yes; please! With only four simple ingredients, this recipe is a great one to make with your little ones. The hardest part for them will be the three to four-hour wait while the mixture dries in the oven. (Hint: fill the time with the other activities we have suggested!) Little ones can measure out and add the ingredients to the food processor, and later, they can cut out the heart-shaped roll-ups with heart cookie cutters. As always, for their safety, make sure you stay with your child throughout this activity. COMMUNICATING LOVE WITH BABY SIGNSGetting out with your little ones to shops or stores around this time of year is a great opportunity to communicate with your child about Valentine's Day. Hearts, flowers, and so many red objects surround and delight your child! Did you know research demonstrates that little ones who use baby sign language learn to communicate more quickly with their parents or caregivers than non-signing babies, and have reduced frustration, because they can talk about the world around and inside them?
The best Valentine's Day activities are the ones that create joyful memories and strengthen family bonds. If you try one or more of these activities, make sure to share how it went in the comments. Use our hashtag #stcroixbirth on social media, so we can share the joy with you and your little ones as you connect on this special day dedicated to love! Note: this post contains affiliate links. Proceeds from your purchases helps us to continue providing free and low-cost services to families in the Twin Cities, Minnesota area, and around the world.
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